aquatic healer. youth encourager. fear slayer.
Professional life coach and visionary Dave Towe is the founder and executive director of Wave Academy. He’s committed to serving wounded worriers those returning from war diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
My whole life has been an amazing evolution. Every time I’m pushed to the edge, a shift occurs and I’m stretched even further then I suspected I could go.
A big part of my growth comes from helping others. I’ve learned that I can’t help someone else on my agenda. I have to understand where that person is and adapt to their space. I may have to modify my language so they can understand in their language.
I used to work as an instructor for Outward Bound. I took at-risk youth into the wilderness and taught them life skills through climbing. By helping students overcome their fears about climbing, I had opportunities to communicate with them in their language.
When I was climbing with students, they’d often become afraid of falling. Their bodies would start to shake and they’d have to be encouraged to take the next step. At that point, one of two things happened: Either they took action, putting a hand on the ledge above and pulling themselves up, at which point they were fine and the fear went away, or they’d take action and fall, safely attached to a rope. If they fell, they’d be suspended there and the fear would go away. Fear is caused by anticipation of what could happen, not by what actually happens.
we get anchored in one place because we’re afraid to take the next step. Fear immobilizes the body. So the quickest way out of the fear is to move. I like to use the simple phrase “Action cancels fear.” When we move into action, we move out of fear. It’s true that once we jump we might fall, but 99 percent of the time we’ll land safely.
Though fear is deeply ingrained in the body, when we take action the experience flips very quickly. We experience a new sense of freedom. Even when we fall, that movement brings clarity. More resources show themselves. We gain a deeper awareness of life.
I’m on a journey to make a difference in the world. I want to contribute back to humanity. I want to find significant ways to touch the aspects of our society that need the most help.
At the end of the day, I know I’m in the right space when I experience grace, when I put my hand on my heart, feel it, and know that what I did that day made an impact.
– Dave Towe